The engagement ring is a very important ring before marriage. Usually, the man gets down on one knee and proposes to his partner – and he does that with an engagement ring. But how do you choose one? Below, you’ll read everything you need to know about the engagement ring.

The Tradition

There are many stories about the tradition of the engagement ring – the truth is unclear. The ring stands for a promise of marriage, unconditional love, and a long, happy life together.
Though romantic, there’s a less romantic version of this tradition. It began in America around the year 1900. Back then, women were expected to enter marriage as virgins – men were not held to the same standard. The engagement ring served as a social status symbol for women, showing they had fulfilled their “duty.”

The Rules

Over the years, a few rules around the engagement ring have developed. Rule one: No engagement ring without a stone – this started in 1477 when it was said that a proposal should include a diamond.
Last century, another rule was added: the ring should cost two months’ salary.
One of the most traditional customs is asking for your partner’s hand from her father before proposing – a sign of respect.
Of course, you don’t have to follow these rules – it’s all up to you.

Which Engagement Ring Should You Buy?

Buying an engagement ring can be very tricky. What color? What material? Should it have a diamond?
Listen carefully when she talks about jewelry – there might be hidden hints. If you’re already talking about jewelry, ask subtle questions, but don’t overdo it.
If the topic doesn’t come up naturally, don’t force it – she might get suspicious.

There are other ways to find out what she likes. Peek in her jewelry box and see what she already owns. That can give you clues.
Think about what she would like and whether she’d buy the ring you picked.
Still unsure? Ask a good, trustworthy friend of hers. Show her some examples you’re considering.
Just make sure it’s a friend who really knows her – and don’t tell too many people. The more people know, the more likely it is to be spoiled.

Ring Size

You’ll need the correct ring size. You can’t just buy any ring and hope it fits – that would be a waste.
Take a ring she often wears or one that fits her well. If she has a jewelry box, pick a ring and take it to the jeweler to measure the size.
Don’t use an old ring – it may no longer fit.
If she doesn’t have other rings, wait for her to take one off – like for sports – and measure it quickly and discreetly.
You could also trace the inside of a ring on paper or press it into some clay to get an imprint.

Choosing the Ring Together

You can also propose without a ring. Just get down on one knee and mention you’d like to pick it out together.
If you do, prepare yourself a little: know the price range and different styles.
Don’t let your wallet do all the talking – sure, have a budget, but stay flexible.
You might even decide that you both want an engagement ring – a shared symbol of love.

The Proposal

How do you actually propose? It’s a very exciting moment. You’ll probably be nervous and curious about her answer.
If you want tips or advice, ask someone you trust – like your dad. He’s probably been through it and can share his experience to help you prepare.

Which Hand Do You Wear the Engagement Ring On?

You’ve got the ring – but which hand do you wear it on?
That depends on religion: Catholics wear it on the left hand, Protestants on the right.
In the past, women would take the ring off after marriage, but today most brides keep wearing it.
Usually, the ring is worn on the left hand – but you can decide for yourself.